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How do I get him back’
What do I say’
Here is the situation:
He and I were high school sweethearts and were engaged to be married after I graduated (hes two years older than I am) A month after I graduated he told me he had joined the military. He didn’t talk with me about it previously, and he did it for us. We went our separate ways very messily i might add. I jumped into another relationship, married the guy a month later. He and I reconciled and tried being friends, and he was already friends with my husband. He left for basic. Three months later I found out I was pregnant. My husband sent me to the town he was stationed to start over new as a family, instead of joining me, I was served divorce papers. My ex fiance and I realized the flame never went out. I had to leave to go back for my daughter. We tried a long distance relationship that did not work well (his day to day was the same thing every day, and he did not ‘have much to say’ but we both still loved each other as much if not more than we did before we split up and mind you we still do) We decided to go our separate ways and just stay friends again. He would ‘fall hard’ for a girl propose to them then the girl would leave him less than 3 months into the relationship. The guys I tried with ended up leaving me because either they could tell i still loved him or because, simply, they were a$$h0le$. We decided to try again, but he was afraid of getting hurt again (both from me and from how he got hurt from the other girls) and so was i. He was afraid to share it with me and a messy situation came up from bad decisions he made. He started cutting off communication with me and became ‘engaged’ (promise to try to date when he leaves the military and comes home) to this girl, who his parents LOVE. They hardly ever talk, and she has her own life, he has his, I have mine. He and I stayed friends, Time passed, we matured, they grew (very) distant but he and I still talk regularly and when we do miss a period of time, the next time we talk it’s as if a day hasn’t passed by. It feels natural and right. After several years, we still feel as strongly as we did back in high school. I want to try again with no hesitation (people make mistakes in life and learn from them, respectively we’ve grown because of our mistakes in life and have become better people because of it, I feel looking back I wouldn’t have been good enough for him now, and the way he was wouldn’t be good for me now.) He wants to try again but all the built up pain over time is stopping him, he told me it’s hard for him to let go of the things that happened in the past. He also told me he still loves me as much if not more than he did in high school, but we could never get that back. I told him I don’t want that back, I want to start something new with him, because by now i’ve realized if I want to spend the rest of my life with anyone it would be him. He wants to try again but just cannot let go of the past. I’d do anything to have him in my life as my significant other again. What can I do’
I’ve googled how to get your ex back but they’re all about immediately following a break up, and after dating no where near as long as he and i have had a relationship.
I don’t mind if I use reverse psychology, like all those websites say. I won’t keep it a secret for all my life, and I know its for the best for both of us, and my daughter mind you (they get along great)

Thank you for taking your time to hear me rambling on. I appreciate your help